I will be 20 in exactly one week. This post is going to be a list of things I have learnt in my (almost) 20 years of being alive. So get ready for the “love yourself” and “be who you want to be” cliches, because there are a lot of them , but I couldn’t possibly leave them out as they are truly important life lessons that everyone should be taught.
1.Say yes to as much as you can. I’ve spent a lot of my life being scared to do new things, to socialise. I’m definitley an introvert. I like to stay in my comfort zone, but on the rare occasion I step out of my little square and say yes to something new, I have enjoyed my self and wish that I would remember to do it more often. Say yes to things you wouldn’t normally do and you might surprise yourself.
2.Everyone isn’t what they seem. I’ve come across a lot of people who I thought I could trust and who I thought had my best interest at heart. It turns out a lot of them I couldn’t trust and would only talk to me when they wanted something. I’ve learnt to choose who I surround myself with carefully. And I am glad to say I have a good bunch of amazing people now, although it’s a small group. It’s all I need. Surround yourself with people who you know have your best interest at heart.
3.There is a lot of good in the world, but also a lot of bad. I’ve had some amazing times in my life but also some horrible times that I would never wish to relive. I’ve learnt to appreciate the good times and learn from the bad. My mum was in a horrible car accident when I was younger and I was so close to losing the one person who I loved the most. It taught me to LOVE your family, tell them you love them because you don’t know how long you have with them.
4.Make a bucket list. I’ve always liked the idea of creating a bucket list but never have because I never thought I would be able to cross anything off it. This year I did make a bucket list and I have already crossed a few things off! One of them being climbing the Sydney Harbour Bridge with my best friend. Write your goals and wishes down on paper. It makes them seem that much more real.
5.Dont stress Highschool. It is the smallest part of your life that IS going to end eventually. Sure, you can make life long friends and you learn important things but if you are one of those people who hate going to school like I was, just stick it out, it will be over before you know it and you will be moving on to bigger and better things.
6.Be Nice. It’s as simple as that. Be nice. Don’t waste your time by being angry and negative. Smile, give compliments, laugh, being nice takes a lot less energy than holding a grudge.
7. Love Yourself. Clichè I know, But it’s true. After 20 years I’ve gone through a lot of self loathing like any adolescent has. It is SO IMPORTANT to be happy with who you are. Don’t waste time stressing about changing yourself and hating yourself or worrying if someone else is going to like you. You will be a lot happier and enjoy life much more if you accept you for you! It’s hard in the beginning I will admit but once you get stared it becomes second nature.