It is she who listens to the rest of the world who fails, and it is she who has enough confidence to define success and failure for herself who succeeds
I’ve had this quote sitting in my notes for quite some time and I’ve decide to finally write a post centering around it.
I think I might have mentioned it in one of my previous posts when I wrote about becoming a “Girl Boss” after I finished reading Girl Boss by Sophia Amoruso.
I’ve been reading over and over this quote to help myself realise that the only expectations I have to exceed are my own. If someone has a problem with how I define my own success or why I do what I do, then thats their own issue and has nothing to do with me.
So, why do so many women seek approval of their success? Well… It is nice to be reassured that you’re heading in the right direction and have someone notice all your hard work.
Listening to those around you can be both a good and bad thing. Good-because it’s nice to have a second opinion sometimes and support from friends and family are one of the biggest factors in being confident in your decisions. Bad-because your opinions can be easily persuaded and you may end up changing your decision based on someone elsess opinion and may end up doing something you don’t want to do.
For a lot of my life I was doing things based on the idea that it would make people like me more. All I wanted was approval from others, for them to tell me I was doing a good job. More often than not I found myself doing things I didn’t necessarily want to do and it usually put me in a really uncomfortable position. I had friends who I could see were doing the same thing but on a whole other level and honestly, it was really sad to watch someone so desperate for other peoples approval.
The second I stopped doing this and starting doing things for myself, my life became so much easier and I was exposed to so many amazing opportunities that I think have made me quite successful at what I do.
So stop worrying about what other people think of your success, be your own boss, own what you do.
– A xo